Deciding to get a divorce can be difficult. It’s important to remember, however, that sometimes it’s the right decision for both parties involved. More importantly, though, it can be the right decision for you.
Divorce gives individuals the opportunity to put an end to an unhappy situation, allowing them to move forward with their lives and find happiness elsewhere. While it may take some time for each person to adjust, having the opportunity to start again can be a positive experience.
If you identify with a few or several of the following signs, divorce might benefit you.
1. Domestic Violence Has Occurred
If you are a victim of domestic violence, or your spouse has unfairly accused you of it, this is a strong indication that your marriage may be detrimental to your safety and welfare.
No one should be physically, mentally, or emotionally abused in their marriage, and people who have encountered this factor in their relationships might wish to consider if divorce is the best way to protect themselves from further harm.
2. There’s a Lack of Trust
Trust is one of the cornerstones of marriage, and spouses who can’t trust each other can have a difficult time making their relationship work. Trust can be won and lost, but if it’s been lost and it doesn’t feel like it can be won again, this can be a sign that your relationship may have run its course.
3. There’s a Lack of Intimacy
Whether it’s emotional or physical intimacy, a lack of either can be detrimental to your marriage. If it’s been weeks or months since you and your spouse have had sex or communicated about this topic, it might indicate that there’s a fundamental problem with your attraction to each other.
While most relationships tend to experience dry spells relative to when they first began, experiencing no intimacy whatsoever can dissolve the bond that spouses share.
4. You Don’t Like Who Your Spouse Has Become (or Yourself)
People grow over time, and with that growth can come many important changes to their personality. People also grow in their relationships, and you might realize one day that you don’t feel like you’re with the person you married – worse yet, you might not even like who they’ve become.
By the same token, you might not like who you’ve become as your marriage has progressed. You may no longer engage in hobbies you once loved, see friends or family as often as you’d like, or feel like you might be happier if you simply weren’t married.
It’s important to deeply consider these feelings and assess over time if they’re fleeting thoughts or here to stay.
5. Attempts to Work Out Issues Have Failed
Some of the issues people experience in their marriages can be resolved with communication and therapy. You and your spouse may have voiced your concerns and desires to each other, and not much may have changed in spite of your efforts. When change doesn’t go where you earnestly try to direct it, this can be a sign that your marriage may not be working out.
6. You’ve Taken Steps to Prepare for Divorce
When a relationship gets rocky, there’s no shame in entertaining the thought of divorce. After all, it’s important to remember that it can be an option when you feel deeply dissatisfied and unhappy in your current relationship. Sometimes allowing yourself to think about divorce can help you remember why you married the love of your life after all.
That said, taking steps to prepare for divorce can indicate that you’re no longer entertaining an idle thought. Instead, you’ve taken action and may be holding yourself back from following through out of fear of the unknown.
If this sounds like you, speaking with a divorce attorney can help you understand the divorce process and what to expect in greater detail. An advocate like someone from Rodriguez & Gimbert, P.L.L.C. can help you understand your rights and protect your interests during your divorce.
If you think it’s time to talk about divorce, we’re ready to listen. Contact Rodriguez & Gimbert, P.L.L.C. online to request a consultation.